Imagine this scenario: You’re in a restaurant with a Chinese lady whom you met on an online dating site, and the waiter brings you the paycheck. What do you do? Channel your inner gentleman and pay on the first date? Or ditch the traditional – and gentlemanly – way of doing things and insist on splitting the bill or even let her pick up the check all by herself? For a man dating young Chinese girls in the 21st century, the dilemma is all too common. In fact, the line between the two opinions is so blurred and vague that a man who chooses to pay for dinner is going to end up being called a “sexist,” while a man who chooses to split the bill may come off as “cheap.” Luckily, we asked around Chinese brides to find out how a modern man should handle this situation to avoid falling into either of the traps. So what is it? Pick up the check and pay all by yourself or “go halfsies,” as they say?